These blog posts reflect some of our members’ personal coming out stories and how they came to find Palmetto Prime.
Coming Out In My 50s. My Journey. – Chris T
It took me many years to fully acknowledge my attraction to men until I was 56. Growing up in a close, conservative Christian family, I dated women for a long time but gradually lost interest. I eventually stopped dating altogether and lived a quiet, single life, though inside, my feelings for men grew stronger. I kept suppressing those feelings, believing they were wrong.
My life changed when my close gay friend Robert came to visit. He sensed something was off and gently encouraged me to open up. When I did, he sighed with relief and said, “I’ve been waiting to have this conversation with you for a long time.” It was the moment I finally accepted that I needed to explore who I am. That conversation lifted a considerable weight. I began seeking guidance, found a mentor online, and gradually grew more comfortable with myself.
I wanted more than just understanding; I needed experience. Nervously, I downloaded gay dating apps and met someone. We talked, connected, and yes, had some “fun.” That moment confirmed I could feel whole and happy in the arms of another man. From there, I sought out community. I discovered Palmetto Prime in Charleston, SC, and joined. From my very first meeting, I was met with smiles, hugs, and genuine warmth. I found my people. Today, I stand proudly as a gay man, surrounded by friends who accept and celebrate me.
A Long and Winding Road – Eric D
I’ve always been drawn to men, fascinated by hot, chiseled guys, plastering my room with surfer posters (though I’ve never stepped onto a board!). Growing up in a progressive, artsy environment in the Hollywood Hills—with supportive parents and many gay family friends—I still couldn’t accept my sexuality. I followed the typical straight path: girlfriends, marriage, kids, and a successful medical career. Quietly, I explored my same-sex attraction online. Seeking purpose and belonging, I turned to fundamentalist Christianity. I became Born Again and tried to “pray the gay away.” While religion offered structure, the community was often toxic and judgmental. Eventually, my marriage ended for reasons unrelated to my sexuality, triggering a long and painful divorce and custody battle. My religious involvement likewise ceased. Only afterward did I cautiously begin to date men through apps—thrilling but unfulfilling. I quickly realized I wanted meaningful relationships, not just hookups.
Coming Out in South Carolina
In January 2024, my eldest son and I moved to Daniel Island, SC, seeking a fresh start, better weather, and more freedom. Away from the constraints of Northeast Pennsylvania, I finally felt free to explore my identity. That July, after a sun-soaked Fourth of July weekend by the pool—and “a few” drinks—I nervously came out to my youngest sister, Sandrine. Her reaction was warm and supportive. Over the following weeks, I told my parents and close friends in California and France. To my relief, every response was 100% positive.
Discovering Palmetto Prime
As I explored Charleston, I found two things missing: a sense of community and a sense of partnership. In September 2024, I began chatting online with Ty Leslie. Our conversation was light—pets, gardening, fashion—but then he invited me to a local gay social group event. A quick online search confirmed it wasn’t anything “kinky” (little did I know, LOL). That Wednesday, I nervously showed up to my first Palmetto Prime happy hour atAt
Edmund’s Oast Brewing Co., I listened to the conversations and felt instantly welcomed. These were different people, from various walks of life—but united in kindness and camaraderie. Thank you, Ty, for bringing me in!
Meeting Ken
A week later, I attended my first Palmetto Prime potluck. Soon after, Scott Jackson and Dan Munoz invited me to a small dinner and pool party—complete with Dan’s famous veggie lasagna. There, I noticed Ken Hook: quiet, kind, and deeply handsome. We had spoken briefly before, but this time I got his number. Ken had recently lost his husband, Shawn, and was still grieving. I was newly out and fiercely independent after my own painful divorce. Despite that, we quickly found
common ground. Our first real date was a trip to Savannah—a beautiful place, but the real magic was seeing Ken’s warmth, humor, and passion beneath his reserved exterior. We’ve both faced personal storms and carry our own baggage, but we’ve built something strong and beautiful together. I’m still very French and fiercely independent—but I’m also profoundly grateful for this growing, loving relationship. I love you, Ken.
Conclusion
Palmetto Prime has become the heart of my Charleston experience. It gave me not just a loving partner, but a vibrant circle of friends who support and celebrate one another. I have not only found myself, but I’ve also found my people.
Finding Friendship, Connection, and New Adventures – John M
Joining Palmetto Prime has genuinely been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. When John and I moved to Charleston over 20 years ago, we quickly discovered how difficult it was to meet other gay couples or people in our stage of life. As time passed, we found ourselves without many close friendships. Outside of occasional trips to visit old friends or seek new experiences, our daily lives became increasingly quiet — and at times, quite lonely.
That all changed just over a year ago when a friend encouraged us to check out.
Palmetto Prime. From the very beginning, we were welcomed with open arms.
We’ve met wonderful people, built genuine connections, and rediscovered the joy of sharing experiences with others. Whether it’s a casual dinner, a weekend outing, or simply good conversation, being part of this group has brought a great deal of new energy and happiness into our lives.
I’ll admit, I may be a little “extra” for some, but thanks to the kindness, laughter, and
support of the fantastic people in this group, I’ve come back to life. We’re excited for any new adventures ahead — and even more grateful for the great friends we’ve found along the way.
If you’re looking to build new friendships, share great experiences, and become part of a warm, welcoming community, I encourage you to give Palmetto Prime a try. It might be the best decision you’ll ever make.